Over the years I’ve loved Steven Covey’s work, especially his concept of the emotional bank account. In a nutshell, he says that we have an account with each person we relate to. It’s an emotional account where we make deposits when we do kind things, extend ourselves, and keep our word. We make withdrawals when […]
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Impatience Rarely Pays Off
The title of this piece probably doesn’t surprise you, if you’re familiar with my work. Sane sex is all about waiting for emotional intimacy to develop before becoming physically intimate. I came to the conclusion that this was the best approach after watching countless examples of impatience not pay off. Similarly, impatience early in the […]
Less is More, With Food and Sex
As of 2008, only 56% of French males and 40% of French females were classified as overweight or obese, compared to 70% of American males and 62% of American females. How can we explain these differences? It may well be how the two cultures differ in their perspectives on food. Researchers have found that the […]
Keeping Agreements
Many authors and teachers advise us to be mindful of the agreements we make with other people so that we can be sure to keep them. Certainly this is sound advice for anyone seeking a long term loving relationship with a partner. Have you ever thought about the agreements you’ve made with yourself? When I […]
Sane Sex May Resonate with Teens After All
When I write about sane sex, it’s always with adults in mind; the life-creating potential of sex renders it strictly adult behavior. So when people ask me if my book is appropriate for their high-school son or daughter, I hesitate. Although I would certainly rather see high schoolers practicing sane sex rather than any other […]
How Do You Wish to Be Treated?
I recently thumbed through a journal I kept during my dating days and found a letter I’d written. It was an exercise I’d done where I imagined how a letter from the love of my life would have read. There were several purposes to the activity, one of which was to put on paper how […]
Achieving Alignment with the Sane Sex Model
What prompted me to write my book was the frequent dialogue I had with singles while I was dating. I found many to be confused, discouraged, demoralized, and occasionally embarrassed. These feelings were the result of being out of alignment, primarily because they had been following Today’s Dating Model. You may recall that with Today’s […]
Getting Ready and Calling Him In – Part 2
Consistent with the feng shui changes I described last week, I received other advice that helped me call my special someone in. People suggested that I make it clear to the universe that I wanted and needed a partner, because a man would want to feel needed and that he had a role to fill. […]
Getting Ready and Calling Him In – Part 1
So you’re ready to meet someone special. You’re getting out there and giving the events you attend a fair shot. Terrific! Now let’s be sure that your thoughts, words, and actions apart from these conscious efforts are aligned with your intentions. Early in my journey to meet Roger, I consulted with Feng Shui expert, Sandy […]
Give It Your Best Shot
Last week I encouraged those who are looking to meet someone to try something new. Now here’s the rest of the story: you need to really give it your best shot. Too often I see singles missing opportunities because of their approach. Here are some ideas for making the most of your efforts: Take an […]