Consistent with the feng shui changes I described last week, I received other advice that helped me call my special someone in. People suggested that I make it clear to the universe that I wanted and needed a partner, because a man would want to feel needed and that he had a role to fill. This idea translated into several actions.
First, as a single parent, I still had to do the things my ex would have, but I stopped referring to myself as the “man” of the house. I also realized that many of the women’s novels I was reading made men out to the bad guys. I knew that negative energy would not be helpful to my meeting someone wonderful, so I turned to reading nonfiction or the classics instead. If you’ve read my book, you’ll recall that early in my dating experience I met many men who were needy and insecure. I found myself becoming quite discouraged and dwelling on these negative encounters. To overcome this and remind myself that were many terrific men on the planet, I made a list of the great men I knew personally. They didn’t have to be single to make my list, just someone who could be a great partner. I wrote all their names on an index card and carried it everywhere with me for months.
As I took these steps and kept affirming that he existed, even though I didn’t know him yet, I gradually started meeting men who were more suitable as potential partners. Dating became more enjoyable and soon I met Roger.