So just how do you start a conversation and keep it going? Sounds pretty basic, but it’s simple things like these that keep people against the wall, in a corner, or away from a singles or networking event altogether. There are a few simple techniques that will help you work any room, whether it’s for business or pleasure. Let’s begin with starting conversations.
It’s easiest to talk to someone who is alone, as often they’re wishing they had someone to talk to, also. Be observant about your surroundings and make a general but positive statement to the person. You could comment about the music, the décor, the good turnout – just avoid anything negative. You could pay a sincere compliment. If no one appears to be alone, stand near two or three people and look for a moment to break in, provided the conversation doesn’t appear to be personal. (If you’re the one in the conversation, be aware of others around who may also be looking to join you.)
When you are engaged in conversation, stay present and attentive. Being aware of your surroundings does not mean you continually look over the other person’s shoulder to see who’s come in or may be around who would be more interesting. You’ll come across as rude and set a poor tone for the occasion. To keep the conversation going, you could ask about other activities they attend, chat about a local news or sporting event, or introduce another neutral topic. Talk about a great movie you recently enjoyed or point out a person in the room who reminds you of someone you admire. Ask gentle, non-invasive questions, taking care not to let it sound like an interview.
Stay positive and interested to continue being interesting. If something is said that you don’t agree with, let it go. Strive to be agreeable rather than right. Leave your soap box home!