Much is written and taught about handling change today. Since receiving always involves a change, learning to embrace change will enhance our ability to receive. How does receiving always mean change? When we receive something, we now have something we didn’t have before, be it a tangible gift, an idea, an understanding of someone’s view […]
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The Emotional Bank Account
Over the years I’ve loved Steven Covey’s work, especially his concept of the emotional bank account. In a nutshell, he says that we have an account with each person we relate to. It’s an emotional account where we make deposits when we do kind things, extend ourselves, and keep our word. We make withdrawals when […]
Tune Up Your Habits
Over the years, most of my clients have gotten frustrated at some point when the pounds stopped dropping. They would complain about the dreaded “plateau.” In the weight loss world, we know that weight does not change systematically, in a nice linear fashion. We could see no movement on the scale for a week only […]
The Side Dish of Fear
Several years ago I was blessed to have a private coaching session with David Friedman, author of The Thought Exchange. I told him that I thought the fact that I often felt fear meant that I lacked faith. He assured me that this was not so. David explained that after years of working as a […]
Impatience Rarely Pays Off
The title of this piece probably doesn’t surprise you, if you’re familiar with my work. Sane sex is all about waiting for emotional intimacy to develop before becoming physically intimate. I came to the conclusion that this was the best approach after watching countless examples of impatience not pay off. Similarly, impatience early in the […]
Things We Need to Teach Our Kids
Parents are leaders, and I’d love to see parents take a stronger leadership role in teaching their children to be well. If I ruled the world, here are some of the things I’d have parents teach their kids: – There is nothing good about smoking. When my daughters were young, we’d play a little game […]
Balancing Losses with Gains
As I’ve mentioned before, giving and receiving go hand-in-hand; when we give, we receive and when we receive, we give. They are inherently balanced. What is equally true I’ve found is that losses are balanced by gains. The trick is to recognize this so that we are able to receive what the universe is offering. […]
Less is More, With Food and Sex
As of 2008, only 56% of French males and 40% of French females were classified as overweight or obese, compared to 70% of American males and 62% of American females. How can we explain these differences? It may well be how the two cultures differ in their perspectives on food. Researchers have found that the […]
The Efficacy of Popular Weight Loss Programs
People frequently ask me what I think of various weight loss programs. Marie Osmond endorses Nutrisystem, Valerie Bertinelli lost her weight with Jenny Craig, and Charles Barkley credits Weight Watchers for his weight loss. How about Sensa, HCG or Alli? I’m always skeptical about weight loss products, because they are usually not regulated and have […]
Learning to Trust
Several years ago, I had a powerful lesson about doing my part and trusting God to do the rest. I had been laid off from a middle management position and given four months of severance pay plus the support of an outplacement firm. My daughters were in daycare full time at that point, and their […]