Several weeks ago I mentioned that in my experience bad dates tend to come in strings. I noticed this myself and I’ve heard others lament about the string of “losers” they’ve attracted lately. I hate to think of anyone as a loser, since my spiritual beliefs are that we all come from the same Source. Clearly, though, some people have a greater sense of themselves and their true worth than others and are better able to project confidence, competence, sincerity, and integrity — and therefore make dating more enjoyable!
Why do bad dates come in bunches? Let’s ask the question in another way – Why do you draw in the same unsuitable people? Typically, it’s because you keep going to the wrong places, looking for the wrong one. Most of us are familiar with the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over, hoping for a different result. This is the time to look at your behavior and change your approach. I’m all for giving a venue a second chance, but if you’ve been going there for months and have yet to meet someone appropriate, it’s time to move on. I’m amazed how closed some singles are to new approaches. They resist attending a church function, volunteering, or taking a class. Often it’s when you stop looking so hard that the right one shows up.
Some people tend to make a snap judgment about someone, based usually on appearance or some other superficial criterion. It could just be that your mother does know the ideal person for you! I remember that when I first met Roger I wondered how exciting life with an accountant could be. Thankfully I stayed in the game long enough to find out that stereotypes don’t hold. Roger has introduced me to jet skis, boogey boards, tubing, and segways. Our life is anything but dull! If dating hasn’t been fun lately, take responsibility for it and shake up your routine. Then see what happens!