I hear lots of complaints from singles about who’s “out there.” Both genders lament that the other half is too focused on appearance, and they feel they can’t meet expectations. Men get concerned when a woman asks what he does for a living, and the women think all men want is sex. If this sounds familiar, do the math and pay attention to how often these things really happen. If it’s not that often, then stop complaining; but if it’s a pattern, remember that you’re common variable in each instance. And you’re the only one you can change – you can’t do anything about them. How about holding off making judgments and giving the conversation more time? How can you change it up to meet different people? Are your expectations realistic? Be proactive and reduce your frustration by changing what you do get a different result.