I was delighted to learn recently that the sane sex approach to dating is in alignment with the third of Buddhism’s Five Mindfulness Trainings dating back to the 5th century B.C.E. As you may recall, sane sex is always safe and results from combining attraction with emotional intimacy. It happens in the context of an exclusive, loving relationship.
The Third Training states: Aware of the suffering caused by sexual misconduct, I vow to cultivate responsibility and learn ways to protect the safety and integrity of individuals, couples, families, and society. I am determined not to engage in sexual relations without love and a long-term commitment. To preserve the happiness of myself and others, I am determined to respect my commitments and the commitments of others.
People often suggest that things have changed today. Love and sex have not changed. The way we meet, connect, and communicate will change over time, but the sane sex approach, while assigned different labels, stands as a sweet, effective, and honorable way to conduct our most intimate relationships.