Dating For Mature Audiences

Everyone expects younger people to date, but what about Baby Boomers and beyond? With 39% of the population over age 45 single, there are some 49 million single, older adults in America. No wonder senior dating sites such as OurTime.com, DatingAARP.com, BabyBoomerDates.com, and Over40andSingle.com are so prevalent. As you explore these services, consider the following […]

Navigating the Singles Dance

  If you’re single, I hope you’re at least thinking about going to the semi-annual Calculated Couples Singles Fair and Ball I wrote about last week.  Don’t let the thought of facing the event alone keep you away.  Here are some tips to get you started: You may want to go to with a friend […]

Dance Outside Your Box

It’s less than a month away – the semi-annual Singles Fair and Ball at the Doubletree Resort in Scottsdale.  On Saturday, September 6, from 6 – 8 p.m. singles will be introduced to a variety of vendors offering services and products specifically for singles.  So often clients complain that society is geared to couples, and […]

Should You Schedule Sex?

I was recently asked if scheduling sex is good or bad for a relationship. Can you guess my answer?  I think it’s a great idea, and I have three reasons.  First, something that gets scheduled tends to happen.  Sex is worth making it a priority in your life so why not reserve time for it.  […]

Be Your Best

Singles frequently lament that they lack dates because they are overweight or aren’t attractive enough.  I can understand their reaching these conclusions based on the emphasis placed on appearance by the media.  Add to that how easy it is to edit a photo today, and the images of “perfection” we’re bombarded with can be overwhelming.  […]

How Much Work Should a Relationship Take?

It’s often said that marriage takes work.  If that’s the case, the same can be said about a relationship.  But what is meant by “work” and how much work should it take?  These are important questions to consider because I’ve seen times when singles think that it’s right and good that they have to work […]

Buddha’s Approach to Sane Sex

I was delighted to learn recently that the sane sex approach to dating is in alignment with the third of Buddhism’s Five Mindfulness Trainings dating back to the 5th century B.C.E.  As you may recall, sane sex is always safe and results from combining attraction with emotional intimacy.  It happens in the context of an […]

Turn Your Thinking Inside Out When Dating

When I was a leader for Weight Watchers, my favorite meeting topic was “What would you do if you wanted to gain weight?” The members listed many items and then we discussed how often they actually did those things – the exact opposite of what they knew they should be doing.  It was a real […]

Is a “Friends with Benefits” Relationship for You?

I’ve written before about a “friends with benefits” arrangement where the benefits are sex and the partners are friends. Romantic love is not part of the arrangement, and the parties may or may not be exclusive. A friends with benefits relationship is more than a one-night stand, as it typically involves people who began as […]

Add Depth to Your Dating with MeetMindful.com

I’m excited to report that I’m now a featured writer for MeetMindful.com, a community-based online dating site that serves the mindful lifestyle and attracts people who all share an essential value of dedication to self-awareness and self-improvement.  Through this site, you’ll not only will you find like-minded matches but also have access to self-development courses […]