Learning to work the room not only means knowing how to start conversations, but how to end them as well. If you’re at a networking event where the goal is to meet a lot of people, try not to monopolize anyone too long. Suggest that you meet for coffee later in the week when you […]
Category: Sane Sex for Singles
Want to have a more enjoyable dating experience? It is possible! This site promotes “sane sex” for singles (not no sex and not the insane kind either). Sane sex happens when we put emotional intimacy ahead of physical intimacy, instead of the other way around, which is what we see in movies and on TV all the time. Sane sex happens in the context of an exclusive, loving relationship. Give it a try and see what happens. Banish lousy sex forever!
Learning to Work the Room – Part 2
So just how do you start a conversation and keep it going? Sounds pretty basic, but it’s simple things like these that keep people against the wall, in a corner, or away from a singles or networking event altogether. There are a few simple techniques that will help you work any room, whether it’s for […]
Working the Room at a Singles Event
Singles events, such as mixers, hikes, and parties, are a great, low risk way to meet other singles interested in dating. On Saturday, February 4 I’ll be speaking at the semi-annual Calculated Couples Singles Fair at the Doubletree Resort in Scottsdale, AZ, so I thought this would an appropriate time to cover the basics of […]
Have Fun While Waiting it Out
Following the sane sex model for dating requires that we postpone physical intimacy until we are emotionally intimate with someone. Emotional intimacy is not quick or easy to achieve, so the wait may feel endless. In our technologically advanced world, wait times seem to get shorter and shorter. (Do you remember having to wait for […]
What’s on Your List?
As you make your list, keep in mind the point from last week, that you first have to be everything on your list. What are your priorities? When making my list, I was definitely influenced by my past relationships. I included some of the qualities I felt were essential that were not present in my […]
Your Dating Intentions for 2012
For many of us, January means a fresh start. This was particularly true for me in 2007. In the spring of 2006, I had set the intention to meet the love of my life by the end of the year. This wasn’t a date I pulled out of the air; I’d been doing my inner […]
Making the Close
We conclude the year with the end of our series on Selling Yourself as a Single – making the close. Good salespeople will tell you that making the sale is often dependent on the strength of the close. The critical points to remember are to be clear, be sincere, and be persistent. It’s important to […]
Learning From Others
Being the third of four children, I realized early on that I could learn a lot by watching my older brothers. Paying attention and learning from others is a great way to accelerate our progress. Single people can benefit from the same practice. When you meet someone in a great relationship, why not ask them […]
Overcoming Objections
My husband Roger is a terrific role model for using the sales techniques I’ve been writing about. When we started dating, he knew himself and what was most important to him. He took the time to listen to me and learn what my priorities were. Roger met my daughters and father and never balked at […]
Singles, Why Not Express Rather Than Impress?
One thing most, if not all, singles have experienced is rejection. We’ve been looking at single people as salespeople, because using selling techniques effectively helps us get to “yes” and avoid the painful experience of being rejected. One area where I’ve seen many singles fall short is in recognizing their strengths, what they have to […]