Reproductive health is not for women only. What can men do? According to the Berkeley Wellness Letter June 2013, men under 35 could benefit from eating 2.5 ounces of walnuts a day, while men over 44 may find it helpful to eat a high antioxidant diet rich in vitamins C and E and zinc. Studies also suggest that moderate physical activity is good for the sperm quality in men of all ages. Sounds simple enough!
One way to have the courage to make the first move and do what is right is to adopt what I call a “cruise mentality.” One of the reasons I love to take cruise vacations is the sense of freedom I have knowing I’ll never see my fellow passengers again. It enables me be authentic and play bigger than I would if surrounded by people I know and see regularly. That same mentality allows me to tactfully but bravely speak up when necessary, even if I may see those people again.
It’s the season to celebrate – weddings, graduations, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and the list goes on. I had a graduation and three birthdays last month. While I do some moderate drinking, I should point out that, from a health perspective, there are pros and cons to consuming alcohol.
Experts advise that moderate alcohol consumption can have health benefits, but too much imbibing can quickly reverse any positive effects. Moderate drinking is considered to be one drink a day for women and two for men of all ages.
For peace and nonviolence to be present, someone must make the first move in their direction. Too often we hold back, waiting for confirmation of what we already know. Peace in our world begins with us, right where we are, right now.
“This, too, is for me, and I demand to see the blessing in it.”
Emma Curtis Hopkins
Things happen all the time that seem opposed to what we’d like to experience. Naturally, our typical reactions may be frustration, disappointment, fear, or bewilderment. Honing our critical thinking skills is an effective way to enhance our ability to receive the good intended for us. Let’s look at how we can think our way to a new and better experience of life.
The first step is to be aware of our thoughts. What assumptions are we making? What unpleasant feelings are we experiencing? It’s important to have this awareness so that we know where we are and the thoughts we need to shift.
The second step is to step back and observe the situation as objectively as possible. You could see yourself at the end of your life looking back at this moment. Ask yourself what other thoughts you could be holding about the situation. Another approach is to consider what possible good or opportunity this situation might present. Remember that your imagination is a powerful creative tool, so use it in your best interest! Here are a couple of examples to get you started:
Your best friend moves away. Acknowledge that your relationship will change, but it doesn’t have to end. With today’s technology, you could Skype or FaceTime with your friend, possibly “seeing” each other more often than you do currently. You’ll now have a friend in a new location, giving you someplace new to visit on vacation. Finally, remember that the Universe abhors a void, so new people will come into your life, as you open yourself to them.
You have an accident. Avoid dwelling on “why me?” See this as an opportunity to care for yourself and maybe get some needed rest. Perhaps it’s a chance for someone to care for you. Gently consider if the Universe is inviting you to pay closer attention or take your time. If so, don’t beat yourself up; just give thanks for the feedback and make an agreement with yourself to get the lesson. Pay attention to the new people who come into your life as a result of the accident. Are you being led to a new career or relationship? Maybe you’ll notice that you move through the entire experience with much more grace and ease that you did a similar incident twenty years ago.
Yes, there is good for us, and we ought to have it!
Do you tend to take weekends off when it comes to healthy eating? How’s that working for you? Saturdays and Sundays account for almost 29% of the week.
Because it takes a reduction of 3500 calories to lose a pound, any deficits you accomplished during the week can easily be reversed on the weekend. And many people think their weekends start on Friday night! You may find you can be successful allowing yourself one treat on the weekend, such as a moderate dessert or glass of wine, especially if you’re more active then. Watch the scale carefully and see how this approach works for you.
Thanks to author David R. Hawkins, I’m much more aware of the difference between power and force. Many people would say this image represents power, but it doesn’t. It portrays force, and sadly we see it glorified on television and in the movies every day. Power is about strength, capacity, influence and authority. The more we cultivate the power, the less need we have for a weapon.
Critical thinking skills are now being taught at every grade level, so they must be important. But can they actually help us become better receivers? Consider a definition of critical thinking from the Foundation for Critical Thinking: Critical thinking is self-guided, self-disciplined thinking which attempts to reason at the highest level of quality in a fair-minded way. People who think critically consistently attempt to live rationally, reasonably, empathically.
Did you notice that the word “attempt” is in both sentences? Critical thinking isn’t easy, and it’s virtually impossible to do all the time. However, it’s worth the effort because several aspects of critical thinking relate to our ability to receive. Critical thinking requires that we not take things at face value, that we avoid jumping to conclusions or making assumptions. Receiving often requires this too. Frequently what appears to be unfortunate ends up being a blessing in disguise. Remember the character Bulldog on Frasier? Something would trigger his anger and he’d go off in a tirade only to find he misunderstood, and he’d sheepishly say, “Never mind.” With sound critical thinking we come to experience the truth that “all things [really do] work together for good.”
When we think critically we dig deeper and consider the situation from multiple perspectives. I remember a former manager of mine who used to remind us not to impose our values on others. How helpful that admonishment has been over the years! When I stay open to someone else’s view, I receive so much more than I had with just my own. Critical thinkers also don’t abandon their emotions, but they’re not ruled by them either. I recall an incident that illustrates both these points.
I was the Director of Human Resources for a non-profit hospital at the time. When the VP of Development suggested that we ask our employees to contribute to the hospital, I was adamantly opposed. Being really good at her job, she decided that educating me would be more effective than attempting to go around me. I was open to meeting with her and she completely reversed my view. Both of us kept our emotions in check, which led to better decisions and a positive outcome for all involved.
Join me next week for more ways critical thinking can bless you.
Are you watching calories as the temperatures rise? Be aware of the effects of diet on fat loss and don’t cut back on your calories too much. When calories are severely restricted without adding exercise, only 50% of the weight lost is fat. The remainder is lean tissue such as muscle. With moderate calorie restriction (500 – 1000 calories decreased per day), 75% of the weight lost is fat. The way to maximize fat loss, up to 97%, is to add exercise to a moderate reduction of calories.
This week I learned that one out of every four women is or has been a victim of domestic violence. That means it is highly likely that you know one of them, although you probably don’t realize it. We can’t solve a problem we don’t understand, so I invite you to begin with a tour of Sojourner Center, one of the largest domestic violence shelters the United States. You’ll come away moved, I guarantee it.