Say “Yes” to Give and Receive More

Written by Joanne Deck. Posted in Blog, Learning To Receive

I find many people reluctant to say “yes” to what’s presented to them, particularly invitations to gatherings, parties, mixers, and similar events.  I remember giving a Come As You Will Be Party years ago, inspired by piece in Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles.  The idea is to hold a celebration where all the guests come dressed as they would be five years in the future, after having achieved their most heart-felt dream.  I only invited people that I knew were goal-oriented and had specific plans for their lives.  I was amazed how many of them were intrigued by the idea, but held back responding to the invitation and in the end did not come.

If this describes you, I invite you to reconsider this line of thinking, especially if you’re trying to receive more in your life.  First of all, your presence does matter; you would not have been invited otherwise.  Many times when I go to an event as a courtesy to the host I find that it is I who was blessed in the end.  Perhaps someone was there I was grateful to see or meet.  It might be that I was able to offer some information or a contact to a guest that no one else there could have.  Or it might simply have been an exceptionally fun and relaxing time that I would have missed out on.  These opportunities are typically perfect examples of how giving and receiving are so connected that we cannot tell them apart.  Say “yes” to the next invitation you receive and see what happens!

Feeling Worthy to Receive

Written by Joanne Deck. Posted in Blog, Learning To Receive

“Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me….”

Many of us grew up hearing this classic hymn in church.   I did, and it’s still one of my favorites.  However, I prefer the updated lyrics I’ve heard: “Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a soul like me….”  If you were to look up the definition of wretch, you’d find it means someone who is pitied,  nnoying, or despicable, whereas soul is much more neutral and can refer to feelings, spirit, essence, or anyone.

While humility is admirable, it can be taken too far, and when it is, this extreme perspective will not help your efforts to receive.  For some, it is this sense of unworthiness that blocks them from receiving the good they seek and sometimes even the basic things they need.  In my survey on receiving, half of those who reported difficulty receiving what they need experienced feelings of unworthiness to some degree.   I recently heard someone asked what she would change about the world if she could change one thing.  A thought came to mind for me that I’ve held many times: wouldn’t it be amazing if everyone on the planet knew, really knew, how much God loved them?

As a child of the Creator, your nature is goodness and you are worthy to receive.  Great teachers from all the ages have taught this.  As Marianne Williamson states, “In the eyes of God, we’re all perfect and we have unlimited capacity to express brilliantly.”  If you’d like to explore this notion further, check out the writings of Ernest Holmes, Catherine Ponder, Edwene Gaines, Wallace Wattles, H. Emilie Cady, Marianne Williamson or the authors on my recommended reading list.

Is Perfection Your Goal?

Written by Joanne Deck. Posted in Blog, Learning To Receive

“The idea of perfect closes your mind to new standards. When you drive hard toward one ideal, you miss opportunities and paths, not to mention hurting your confidence. Believe in your potential and then go out and explore it; don’t limit it.”  John Eliot, Ph.D., Reverse Psychology for Success

Last week I wrote about how hearing of another’s success can be motivating or demoralizing, depending on how we look at it.  But that doesn’t just happen when we compare ourselves to another person; it could be the expectations we have of ourselves that cause the same discouragement.

Just today I two conversations along this line. The first was with a business colleague who was feeling disheartened over her inability to do it all. She was exhausted caring
for her business, home, family, and self.  I resonated with her statements, having been there myself many times.  The other was with a close friend who told me she sometimes wonders if she is the only one who struggles with certain issues.  She acknowledged that my recently admitting my own difficulties along the same lines encouraged her – she realized that she was not alone!

I do believe in goals and know the statistics about how much more people who have written goals achieve compared to those who don’t.  But let’s not get caught with perfection as our goal.  We do not have to do it all, have it all, or be it all.  What if we let ourselves just be for a while, and see what comes.  If doing so for a whole day is unrealistic, how about an hour?  Let us do only what is truly ours to do and free ourselves to explore the opportunities and paths that come when we let go of perfection.