People often tell me that the reason they can’t get a date is that they’re not attractive enough. Interestingly, and sadly, I hear this from women and men alike. Usually the women think they’re too heavy, and the men believe they’re too short. In all honesty, I assure you I’ve never met anyone that I agreed with on this point. Appearance is not the issue. The next time you’re in a crowded place with men and women, take a good look at the couples. Most people are pleasant looking, but they’re not knock-outs. And while some seem well matched to each other, I frequently see all kinds of combinations. She will be stunning while he is average. The man will be shorter than the woman, yet it’s evident the woman adores him. And on it goes.
There is someone for everyone, and we only need one to be our special someone. What I gently suggest to people is to examine what’s taking place between their ears and what’s coming out of their mouths. These tend to be our problem areas: the thoughts we hold and how they’re reflected in the things we say. Appreciation, praise, and humor are attractors; complaints, negativity, and cynicism repel people.
Do your best to look and feel your best, display gratitude and confidence with a smile, and you’ll see a difference in how people see you.