The prevalence of superficial sex on television and in the movies has led people to conclude that they should be having sex early in a relationship, even on the first date. This puts tremendous needless pressure on both men and women, and it feels unnatural for many people, as it should. I say this not because superficial sex is morally wrong (although you may feel that way and that’s fine), but because engaging in physical intimacy when there is no emotional intimacy puts the relationship out of alignment.
Having sex means making ourselves very vulnerable. When we do this with someone we’ve just met, it may be exciting, but it should also be somewhat frightening. Consider these words from author and speaker Joan Gattuso: “…[T]he woman is the receiver, not just physiologically, but emotionally, spiritually, and psychically as well. Before going to bed with a new man, consider if you want all of him, his neuroses, judgments, grievances, prejudices, likes and dislikes, ejaculated into you and into your essence.” Sobering thoughts to consider, ladies, don’t you think?
Don’t allow yourself to be pressured into a physically intimate relationship until you’re ready. If it’s right and meant to be, a delay in the process won’t change that. Stand your ground and focus on savoring each new discovery about the other person. Enjoy the ride!