As you can imagine, people I knew were quite interested in my book as I was writing it. A former human resources director writing a book about dating and sex?! I remember a friend telling me that she wished my book was already available, because a friend of hers was making poor decisions. This friend had agreed to sleep with a man she’d just met because he’d helped her do something around her house. It wasn’t a major project, like re-tile her bathroom (not that that would warrant having sex with someone), but something minor like move a heavy object.
I’m all for gratitude and expressing appreciation, but can you see that sharing yourself in the most physically intimate way possible as a way to say “thank you” is just too much? Ask yourself: Am I honoring myself and my body by agreeing to be intimate in this situation?